"A real sign of growth is when you learn to start checking your own damn self!" - Unknown
I remember a time in my life when everything that could go wrong went wrong daily. I remember asking God "why me, why are bad things always happening to me Lord?" and failing to understand why the world was being so mean to me until one day, I decided to CHECK MYSELF! We're halfway through January 2016, and if you are still seeing the same old negative patterns showing up in your life after all those resolutions about how different your life was going to be, my question to you is this ..."have you really ever just sat back and checked yourself?" and by check yourself I mean this:
Have you checked the thoughts you entertain in your head? Have you checked the people you choose to surround yourself with? Have you checked your motives?
If the answer to any of the above is NO, then TODAY, I want you to check these 3 things:
MENTAL CHECK: Start evaluating the negative self-talk that occurs subconsciously in your head. Is everything always worse case scenario for you? Do you believe everyone gets all the luck but you? Do you blame everyone else for everything you go through? Do you speak negatively about people you don't even know? or do you allow bitterness, envy, jealousy and/or revenge to consume you?
The truth is as humans we have all experienced these thoughts/feelings at some point in our life, especially when going through a bad situation. The key is to recognize these thoughts and understand that they serve no purpose to you. You see when you blame, compete, envy or speak negative you are just confirming deep routed feelings and opinions you have about life and yourself! I have never seen a person who is truly happy in life have time to waste sending out negative vibrations because they are too happy to be stressed or allow anyone to take their enjoyment of living life at its best. Understand that you do NOT need money to do this...some of the poorest people in the world are the happiest I have seen! Train your mind to see the good in everything and everyone and you will be surprised how your life changes for the better. You see, in order to attract love, peace and harmony into your life daily, you have to give it out daily...in addition to showing gratitude for what you have and where you are now.
Your thoughts are very powerful and when you send negativity out, like a boomerang it comes right back!
CIRCLE CHECK: What does your circle of family, friends & associates look like? Are they hard working ambitious people? Do they push you to go higher, even if that means you having to leave them behind? Do they provide accountability, support and real friendship? Are they supporting you or using you? Can you trust them with everything, including your man? Will they tell you when you are doing wrong? Are they a positive or negative influence in your life?
All of the above questions play a very important role in evaluating your life. You see in this day and age, fake has become the new real! Enemies don't look like they did before...sad to say, they come smiling and bearing gifts galore! You see in our desire to be wanted, needed and accepted, we often tolerate people in our lives just for the simple fact we don't want to be the ones to admit to ourselves that it is time to remove them from our lives. We have become a society who feels guilty about rejecting anything and anyone around us who we subconsciously know mean us no well, usually because we would rather be in bad company than face standing alone!
It is important to learn who has been placed in your life as a blessing and/or a lesson and surround yourself only with those who will keep you on track to living positively in your purpose. Yes, that may mean walking away from people or situations you have tolerated for years but if deep down in your heart you know this has been something holding you back, then understand its OK to "LET IT GO!" ...in fact don't just walk away, RUN!!! You may not always know how to recognize someone who means you no well but never forget that God blessed you with the spirit of discernment. The problem is many of us subconsciously choose not to tap into it. Remember beautiful flowers cannot grow healthy in between thorns and weeds. Separate yourself and you will see an instant improvement in your mind, spirit and health!
MOTIVE CHECK: Do you know what you want in life? Do you have long-term goals? How do you want people to see you in life? Is your sole focus always just to get one up? What is your WHY?
Before you can understand how to make a change, you must know why you want to make that change. If you are happy with your life where it is then its most likely you will not see a reason to change but ask yourself if what you are doing now is what you want to do forever? If the answer is no, then start to ask yourself what it is you really want to do and take the necessary steps to make it happen. Find your WHY? ...your why is the reason you want to do something and has to be significant enough to keep you positive and the reason you will always be motivated to be the best version of you.
Just remember that for anything you do in life to be successful you have to have a passion and a purpose behind it. You cannot just simply do it for the hell of it or just because someone else is doing it! Did you know that most times we are where we are right now in life, not because of the decisions we made today but by the ones we made 10 years ago, 5 years ago, last year, last week and yesterday. If you are not where you want to be in life, chances are that you did not make the correct choices or decisions in your past which ultimately are now a reflection of your present. Start your journey today and make your future better than yesterday.
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Much love, Lakisha "the Diva" Ross Mindset Transformation Coach & Online Business Strategist